FAITH AND DATING..........

I hope everyone had a great week and life didn't throw you any lemons!!   Well, if life does throw you some lemons just make lemonade!  I am happy to report my car mechanic was able to get my car in and get it fixed!  I am so grateful a friend of mine let me borrow a vehicle while mine is the shop!  So without further ado, let's talk about today's topic, FAITH AND DATING!

I am very happy and content with myself!  I just can't seem to stress that enough about myself.  I have really grown as a person over the past few months or should say the last year.  I do believe the change can only be attributed to one thing! One thing only and that is my increase FAITH in God, Our Heavenly Father!  I don't think I would be where I am at emotionally or physically without my growing FAITH and my growing desire to learn more about the Bible.  Most of you are wondering what does FAITH, happiness and contentment have to do with one's dating or a relationship for that matter.  Well, I did some research on what really makes a relationship or dating successful and you want to know what the number one answer that I found?  FAITH and Happiness with one's self! 

All the research I read stated the number one reason for successful relationships and dating is being happy, content with yourself and having FAITH.  Knowing your FAITH can take you places! Knowing your FAITH is your best support network and guidance in this life! Knowing you are in a good place!  Knowing you are not dependent on someone to make you happy!  Knowing all your past baggage issues have been dealt with and have been packed away for good! Knowing that no matter what you are a survivor and that you hold the key to your own happiness.  Knowing that you know what you want in a partner and will not compromise your standards! Knowing that you are comfortable in your own skin!  Most importantly, YOU ARE HAPPY, CONTENTED WITH YOUR LIFE, HAVE STRONG FAITH AND YOU ARE THE ONE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR OWN HAPPINESS!

I think the reason why some people are on dating websites for quite some time is because they are searching for the one person to make them happy!  Yep, that's right!  They are searching for their happiness instead of working on it own their own!  They need someone to make them happy, give them encouragement, give them a purpose.  I wonder what would happen if these same people turned to their FAITH for support and encouragement versus searching for Mr. or Mrs. Right.  Would they attract the right individual?

I have dated some attractive men but the attraction quickly wore off when they started talking about their baggage, their hurts, past relationships, etc.  I felt during these encounters that my happiness for myself was being sucked out!  It was like listening to their problems and issues, I was being brought down to their level of unhappiness.  You know how the saying goes, "Misery loves company!"  I for one don't want to be with that type of company! I know when I questioned them about their FAITH that most of them had a blank look on their face.  The look that says what does FAITH have to do it?  I think what most people don't realize that God has tremendous power to heal us from all afflictions.  Just a thought but maybe if everyone turned to God to heal them from their baggage then maybe just maybe the right relationship will come along!

I know if I didn't have such a strong FAITH and belief in God that I do not think I would be at where I am today!  Truth be told, I write in a prayer journal everyday and pour out my heart's desires, troubles, feelings, etc.  I always come away after writing in my journal so much better and calmer about  my life.  It is almost like as I write the answers to my questions or problems suddenly appear.  I really feel that I truly receive God's direction for me.  I owe my emotional and physical health  to the Almighty!  I know no matter what is happening in my life, the one constant companion/partner is God. 

So in a nutshell, I have decided to let my FAITH guide me in any future relationship!  What does that mean? I tell  you what it means, instead of doing online dating, I am going to use my FAITH to find my partner! 

Ciao,
Spyderrenee